Jeffrey and Aleyah reveal how losing everything in a wildfire made them better receivers, and also dish out ten easy ways to get into receiving mode (hint: you don’t have to burn down your house!).

Sometimes a wall of resistance keeps us stuck, but it doesn’t have to be this way!

Learn a few easy ways to shift your energy and become better at allowing more good things into your life and business.

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Jeffrey: Welcome back to the show. I'm Jeffrey Samorano, I'm back again with Aleyah Swan. And today we want to talk about some easy ways you can shift into the receiving mode and experience more abundance and prosperity, not only in your life, but in your business as well. And to today, you know, I want to start with a story, our story of losing everything in the paradise fire. And recently, so I know Aleyah has a lot to share about that. Why don't you start?

Aleyah: Well, this story for us was, you know, on one hand, very tragic and, you know, we just moved to paradise California and five weeks before the campfire descended upon us and the entire town pretty much was wiped out. So not just our home, but tens of thousands of other homes. And yes, that was a grief inducing experience, very hard. But what was interesting for us and we've Jeffrey, and I've talked about this many times, what was kind of fascinating is that it, it did sort of flip a switch for us as far as receiving mode goes. Um, because we literally had nothing after that experience, just only what we could throw into our cars and we had our lives. We were so grateful. I just remember that even though that experience was devastating, I had just kind of a high after of gratitude that my children were safe, that we were safe. Ah, I'll start crying. I do it every time. Um, that like, there's just no way to describe the level of gratitude that we were, you know, came through that experience, um, alive and safe and unburned and all of that. So, um, even though it was a heavy experience on one hand, the things that happened for you and I, after we're kind of magical, right? Because when you have nothing, there's, there's nothing that makes you get into receiving mode more quickly than when your house burns down and you literally have nothing.

Jeffrey: And I feel like this was kind of for me from, from my perspective, anyway, it was kind of a struggle. I remember at first that it was kind of a struggle because I'm one who's not used to, uh, accepting gifts. And I dunno if handouts is the right word, but you know, people were offering clothes, their clothes, they were offering, um, all kinds of assistance and, you know, to, to receive that, it, it was a stretch for me to, to not say, no, no, I'll be fine. No, I'll be fine. It's fine. No, no, no. It's okay. I'll be fine. And like, I remember doing that at first and then being like, but wait, I don't, I don't have anything except the clothes on my back and like dogs and kids. Yeah. It was so hard

Aleyah: To receive so much stuff at first. And there was like a guilt and shame associated with it. I think for all of us, we felt a little bad or guilty for receiving so much stuff from people. And I heard other survivors talking about this all the time and I did know other survivors who would put their foot down and just saying, no, I'm not taking anything. I'm not taking anything from you. And they just fought and did it all themselves. We had so much love, I think it was a little different for us because we had a lot of family and clients and friends that were just already so loved and so such supporting people in general that it was, it felt so authentic and genuine what they were offering us and came from such a caring place that it felt so wrong to say no to that, but it was hard.

Aleyah: It was hard to accept it, especially from strangers, you know, like people gave us the most incredible gifts and support that we just didn't even know. Um, and that was very, you know, to me, that's attached to a lot of the kind of, um, ancestral ties or, you know, ways that my family is a very, you know, uh, do it yourself and, you know, pull yourself up by your bootstraps kind of family. Like a lot of us have, right? Like they're people that have survived over through generations, all kinds of immigration and you know, things and they are so strong and resilient, but sometimes that can extend into passing down this notion of, you know, doing it all alone, doing it all yourself. And if you can't do that, then there's shame associated with it. Right.

Jeffrey: Yeah. Almost like, you know, if you didn't do it yourself, then you don't really deserve it. Yeah. Yes.

Aleyah: The, the deserving thing is big and the self-worth piece. And I think we were kind of in a place of having pretty decent self-esteem and being able to receive, you know, definitely it's easier to receive when you have self-esteem, but I there's been times in my life where my self worth was much lower. And I do remember opportunities coming my way. And there was just a sense of revulsion I had towards those opportunities that when I look reflected back on them, I go, wow, that doesn't even make any sense. I just, I had sort of a repellent, you know, response to opportunities, you know, 30 years ago that would come towards me because I didn't feel worthy. And I had to work through that. I had to work through my, you know, build up self worthiness and build up trust in the universe and, you know, and in my own self and in my life to get to a place where I could receive and feel worthy at the same time. Yeah.

Jeffrey: And like anything, you know, this is a muscle, it's a practice. And it's like, you've got to continue to do it consciously and willfully, and then it becomes second nature. And then it becomes part of your everyday experience. And I think that's kind of our, our goal today really is to give you 10 practical things that you can do that will help if you did them daily. If you did them regularly to help you actually shift into more of abundance, more receiving more,

Aleyah: Without going through a fire, you can do it without going through a fire. Don't recommend not the overnight method. It's okay to take your time with this stuff.

Jeffrey: Absolutely. So, uh, w w how would you say, how would you know when you're not in the receiving Mode

Aleyah: So what I feel when I'm not in receiving mode or what I noticed and observed kind of in clients or friends and other people I've talked to is, um, there's sort of a, like if an opportunity or help is coming or even new information, you know, or people are coming into your life, you know, there's an automatic, like shield that kind of goes up of resistance or overly being overly critical of that person, or, uh, information that comes in. And I still do this. Even we were talking about this podcast, I still did it because we were arguing over appreciation versus gratitude. And, you know, I just have this argumentative side. That's kind of like, oh no, I think I'm right. You know, and I have known a lot of people that have this side as well, and that site just doesn't really serve us.

Aleyah: Right. Like when we think we know, or we view the world through a harsh or critical or judgmental lens, which is usually about how we feel about ourselves, it's not necessarily how we feel about the world, but it, we create a filter and that's a whole nother podcast, but I think those are some of the emotional responses that we have when we're not in receiving mode. It's like we complain all the time. We're angry about everything we're resistant. We don't trust what's coming to us. We feel judgemental. We think we know everything. We feel critical. Um, also for entrepreneurs, the doing busy mode, you know, thinking that the more we work, the more busy we are that that's, what's gonna get us unstuck, you know, which that goes into a whole nother thing. Do you have anything else to say about the,

Jeffrey: Well from the entrepreneur side of things? I would feel, I would say that, you know, the idea of staying the staying busy, the busy work, the, um, long nights, the, you know, tons of tasks and constantly kind of spinning your wheels and feeling overwhelmed. I think that is a real indicator. Like if that's you out there and you're feeling, you're saying, oh my God, that's, so me, that's not the energy of alignment and receiving, it's not, it's really not. So you really have to step back and say, okay, these are indicators that I'm not on the right track. If I want to receive more in my business and my life.

Aleyah: Amen. And you know, sometimes the cure for the busy mode is actually to unplug and do the opposite of what you think you should be doing. So if you're one of those people that thinks that you'll get, and let's say you feel kind of stuck in your business in some way, there's like, you've got question marks and you're frustrated about not finding the answers. You're not clear about some choice you need to make. And if your Mo is to just keep being busy, and you think that the more you do, the more that information is going to come to you usually it's the opposite of what you actually should be doing. So unplugging getting a nature, you know, getting in what, you know, receiving mode means that you're just like, let go, right? You let the answers. And you activate that intuition through creativity, through grounding, gardening, you know, spending time, that's enjoyable with people. And, um, and we can get more into that when we talk about the solutions, but I just want to throw that out there that a lot of times it's the exact opposite of what we're doing, and it's what we need to be doing.

Jeffrey: Exactly. I, I'm a big proponent of efficiency and working smarter, not harder. And I find it interesting. Um, I just, so everybody out there knows, I work on three monitors, three monitors, a keyboard, a magic mouse, and a Wacom tablet. I don't have a traditional mouse or a roller ball or anything like that. But to me, this is a workstation that I'm going to try and be as productive as possible. So that I have time, right? If we think about how we balance our time, right? If you take 10 minutes doing a five minute task, you have half as much time for anything else, whether it's relaxing or doing other tasks, it doesn't matter. But my whole shtick, if you will, what I geek out on is like things that create efficiency. And when you have efficiencies, you end up having more time. So, um, I have plenty of clients who have, you know, sought advice. And then when I say, oh, well, you should try a multiple monitors, or you should try, um, moving to active campaign versus, you know, MailChimp or something. Cause it gives this extra, um, you know, automation tools and stuff like that. And, you know, just hearing people say, oh, I could never do that. I can never do that. You know? Right there, you're, you're in that resistance

Aleyah: While of resistance

Jeffrey: Throwing up the wall of resistance. And that's definitely not in that receiving mode.

Aleyah: Yeah. Well, and with that particular issue, the tech issue, I've seen this in myself, as you know, over years of you telling me to do things and maybe it's because your husband, I just find it annoying. You're my husband. I find it annoying, but I'll just throw up the wall of resistance. And then three years later, I'll, I'll come around and go, oh my gosh, I wish I had just listened to you sooner because it really does help. But you know, sometimes especially around technology, like we, I know I'm one of these people where I just don't see myself as that type of person. Who's very technologically proficient, but boy sure. I'm getting that way over time. You know? And I think I just used to have the story about myself that that's not even something I'm interested in becoming, but yet here I have an, you know, a business where I need to market myself online and now we're doing, you know, podcasts and all this other stuff that requires technology.

Aleyah: So it's definitely making me become a technologically savvy person. But I just remember feeling when you used to say stuff like that. And my immediate response was this throwing up the shield of resistance of like, no, you're wrong, that's wrong. I don't need that this a 12 year old computer and my, you know, um, iPhone six or just fine for when I need, you know, and I do think it's okay to not overly value. Like I think it's kind of gross when you feel like you have to always have the newest, latest thing. That's just my personal judgment, I guess. It's like, I think it's okay to work with stuff that's a little older, but, but sometimes it isn't sometimes you do have to upgrade. And that's just a fact,

Jeffrey: the question is like, is this technology hindering or helping my productivity? And sometimes if it's too old and I've been on, I've been on laptops where I am trying to simply browse the internet and it's taking so long, like I'm going from the finder then to the browser, you know, like it's the spinning wheel happens. And it's like, you know what? I could never work on this because it would take me so long to do what I do on this. It's just, it's a hindrance it's. And if our, if our, the owner of that computer, it would have been gone. Cause it's like, I cannot run a business efficiency efficiently with this amount of technology. Now on the other side, I'm not the kind of person who's like, oh, I need the new one. Oh, the new one new model just came out. I got to get it. The new model just came out. Oh, I got to get it. I'm not that guy. But I do think that balance of like profit, uh, efficiency technology, uh, you know, as long as it's not hindering your work. Yeah. And

Aleyah: You're someone who's really excited about new things. And I do think that that is one of the ways that you shift into receiving mode more easily than I do. Tech resisting tech is a common thing. I know you run into with your clients and with my clients. What I see, and I have seen all of this stuff in myself to someone, I tell you these stories, I am not saying them with judgment, but I do have clients that come to me for intuitive guidance and we're talking to their angels and guides. And they have a question about like, for instance, you know, maybe they're not super happy with the partner. They have not super crazy about the job they have. And they have this urge to move somewhere and their guides tell them, yeah, what about Oregon or Washington or Florida, wherever it is. And, and they're saying like, once you make that move, all the other things, the job, the partner, everything falls into place, but you just have to get yourself there.

Aleyah: And my clients will throw up. Usually they'll say, yes, I have thought about that too. But that doesn't work for me because of this, this, this, and this. And so they create immediately a story around why that's not gonna work. And then they'll come to me six months later and ask the same questions and they're getting the same guidance and oh yeah, that's been in the back of my mind, you know, like their own intuition is working on that, you know, giving them those signs and, and messages. And they still say, but that's not going to work because you know, my parents need me or, you know, something like, there's always some other pool that's keeping them stuck and this can go on for years and years and years. Um, but that is, you know, I feel like the universe, your higher wisdom, you know, trying to give you signs, messages, answering all your questions, answering your desires that you're putting out there. Um, and then, you know, sometimes people are just throwing up those shields of resistance again and just saying, well, that's not gonna work for me, but why? And then a day later it's like, well, why isn't my life, the way that I want it to be. Right. But so that's definitely receiving mode stuff in my opinion.

Jeffrey: So how do we know, how do we know when we are in receive? What does that even look like?

Aleyah: What does that look like?

Jeffrey: I would say you feel a lot more lighthearted. You're creative, joyful, you're, you know, learning new things. You're wanting to learn new things, hungry for knowledge. I think that creativity thing is big because I'm, I'm a firm believer that that creativity is not to sound too hokey, but it's like a message from beyond, right? It's, you're, you're picking up on an energy. You're receiving energy.

Aleyah: I mean, that's the, I love all that.

Aleyah: Right. All creative, every single one of us has a creative side.

Jeffrey: Have you ever felt that, where you get this great idea out of the blue and you're like, did, did I just think that, or did somebody just think that for me and send it my way? Right. Is that a, is that, did I, like, I feel like I've, I've had thoughts that seem to come from somewhere else. You know what I mean? And to me that is like the epitome of that receiving mode, you know? And I think back on it, well, I was happy. I was relaxed. I was probably in nature. I was probably looking across a vast view of the ocean or whatever. Yeah. And then you were struck with this idea and you're like, where did that come from? Right. And I think that's receiving that.

Aleyah: I love those moments. And I think also this is something that I've seen as well with clients and myself too. Just also, when you unlock receiving mode, you might be attracting a lot of different things and you still get to say yes or no to them, but there's not this wall of resistance. There it's a little bit of a different feeling, right? So you might be, once you get into the river of receiving, there might be some things coming your way, that you still can use your own discernment and inner navigation around. Doesn't mean that every single thing coming to you as what you want, necessarily, once you start getting a receiving mode and attracting a lot of stuff to yourself, you still get to say no to it, but you don't have the same, uh, kind of overly critical judgmental response to it. It's just kind of like a no pass pass on that, you know, and then welcoming in and feeling so grateful for the stuff that is coming to you, that you, you know, that solves whatever issues, whatever you're throwing out there. Right. So, I mean, the gratitude for me is probably the biggest attractor for receiving mode that I've noticed like feeling grateful for what I have. And I think we saw that after the fire, going back to that, it was like we were in such a profound state of gratitude. Like I've never been in before

Aleyah: Deep deep. It was just like a constant buzz of buzzing every day.

Aleyah: I'm grateful, I'm crying. I am grateful. I'm crying. You know, it was a kind of an emotional time, but still like that just being in that gratitude was so powerful and it shifted for us. So many things just really overnight. Yeah.

Jeffrey: And I feel like, I feel like, um, there were times at the beginning where, where that resistance came up and what kind of pushed me past that, uh, limiting wall, if you will, is that I really had to sit with my self, my ideas and my belief about, um, what it feels like to Help others. Right. So

Jeffrey: If you put yourself in a position in their shoes, well, you know, how does it feel to help others? You know, that feels good. Right. But how does it feel to offer your help? And then to have somebody say, no, thanks. I don't want it. Well, that doesn't feel good. So if

Aleyah: You know that they need it.

Jeffrey: Right. Right. And you're like, I would love to help you. And they're just like, I don't want your help. And you're like, well, that feels kind of crappy. So I'll offer help somewhere else, you know? But then on the flip side to receive also feels good.

Aleyah: I remember before the fire, if you had asked me if I was good at receiving, I would've said, sure, sure. I am. Yeah. And you probably would have too. Right. Like we would've thought we were just kind of ordinary receivers. Like I don't think we would have thought we were super receivers, but we weren't, we didn't think of ourselves as bad receivers either. But boy, that was a test. We had so much goodness coming our way after the fire. It was, um, a test of like, how much do we say yes to, and is this okay? And it was really so interesting. And I heard so many other people. I had a cousin who went through hurricane Katrina and she said it was the same for their family as well, just losing everything. And then, um, you know, the help, the help was almost harder than the loss because emotionally it's just very strange to be in that state when you're not used to it.

Aleyah: And, and we also were helping, you know, even after the fire, we were helping get goods because so much was coming into our town and our community. We were trying to get stuff into the hands of other people who needed it. And a lot of people were camping in tents and, you know, didn't have a home as quickly as we were able to get. And so, you know, there was, uh, there were a lot of opportunities to help in that situation too. And just to notice like, wow, all this stuff is coming to me. And then I have the ability to turn around and give that back out to other people who need different help than I might need. But it was just kind of flowing is what I'm trying to say. You know, there was just this love that was I'm going to go there.

Aleyah: I don't mind being hokey. It was like just this loving, helpful energy. It was like flowing to us. And then we were able to flow it to other people who needed it. And it was just a beautiful cycle of people helping each other. And, you know, I would never wish for anyone to go through that experience, but that's the thing that was so stunning about it. It was just seeing that part of human nature and it would have felt criminal not to allow that those people to help us or hug us or offer comfort, you know?

Jeffrey: Yeah. And so, so to, to just shift the same idea into kind of the entrepreneurial space, like now we're thinking about our clients are our customers are, um, you know, people who are in our funnels and on our lists, right. They're asking for help they're they want our help. And if we don't offer it, we're not, we're not in the receiving mode ourselves. How can we expect them to be in the receiving mode are if they're in the receiving mode, but we're not willing to give it, like there there's this whole dynamic that also translates to, to the business. And I hope you're out there seeing that relationship. Right.

Aleyah: Oh yeah. I mean, I feel like I see this when the online entrepreneur space, this is a great, I mean, cause I don't know to me this whole type of businesses, just a little bit magical, right. You're not just like clocking in and someone, you know, is standing at the register. What, not any disrespect to jobs like that at all. And I have done many of them, but it's like, you know, you're though you kind of know what to expect in a job like that. Right. We like clock in clock out, you get paid and it's not, there's not a lot of question marks and you're not having to put your soul out there and you know, that kind of thing. I mean, I feel like this type of business almost requires you to get good at these, um, energetic skills. Right. Hugely, hugely.

Jeffrey: It's a best self self-help program. It feels like that.

Aleyah: Yeah. So what are some of your favorite ways Jeffrey to get into receiving mode?

Jeffrey: Uh, I just ask people for money. No. Hey, Hey, good going to finish that. Can I, can I come by? No, you are good at asking for what you need.

Aleyah: Definitely asks for bites of my pie

Jeffrey: Because you have the best pie all the time. Um, I like, so the, the gratitude practice, um, the practice of appreciation, I think is huge. I think it's a good place to start with our number one on our 10 practical things that you could do today and every year. Yeah. Yeah.

Aleyah: And you were really good at this. And I also think we could do a whole podcast on our marriage around this because I will literally just make you the same sandwich I've made you like 2000 times and you act like it's the first time I've ever made that sandwich for you. And you literally like hug and kiss me and tell me how grateful you are for that, that same old cheese and Turkey sandwich. And I, that makes me feel really good and want to keep making sandwiches for you. But I also just think that's part of like, you're just really good at being grateful for little things. And I think that's where the gratitude practice has to start. Right. Especially when things are funky, like if you're going through a hard time, like after the fire, for instance, you know, I don't believe in spiritual bypassing. So I let myself grieve that experience, but I also felt grateful like we talked about earlier. And so if you can hold some gratitude, even if it's for the most rudimentary things in your life, like I'm grateful, woke up today, I've got a body that works, you know, like even when you start, you know, I have shelter like starting basic, if you're in a funky space and you can't think of bigger things to be grateful for, it really does build on itself. The more you do that, the more life starts to shift.

Jeffrey: Yeah. And I think you're really good at this to do a morning practice where you wake up and you know, you'll even, and here's, here's a tip for everyone out there. If you're having trouble thinking like, well, what am I really grateful for? Start with some of the obvious things I can see I've got both eyes to see and I'm thankful for it. I've got limbs that move, you know, and not everybody does. And these are things that we take for granted every day. And it's like be grateful for them. Like that's a great place to start and you'll start to get more creative as you. But I think, I think honey, you have a great practice, uh, aptitude for, I do do it every

Aleyah: Morning. And I also have been including my business more in that practice because I realized I was not including our business when I was doing my gratitude practice. So now I am including, oh no, but I've stretched my gratitude practice to include my businesses. And I, you know, that does, you know, when you do this in the morning, it does set you up for some good vibes for the rest of the day. Right? And then it's also a great time after that to focus, you know, set your intentions for other things, you know, that you want to shift or, and to ask for help with that day. But I'm a big believer in my angels and guides. So after I'm grateful for all my stuff, I also invite in the divine and I invite my guides to help me with specific things that I have coming up that day. So, and especially around work. Cause that's usually what we're doing on the weekdays and sometimes weekend days as well. So asking for inspiration, if I need it asking for help and support around even content creation or you know, all kinds of stuff, I'm just putting that, um, request for help out there. To me, that is a big part of getting into receiving mode. That's you?

Jeffrey: Okay. So number two, I think this is a subtle, simple, small, but profound shift and that's really accepting compliments and you can try this next time. Somebody gives you a compliment, says, oh, you look really pretty or that's a nice dress or whatever it is. Um, you can either say it out loud or think it, but you just say, I receive that and be grateful that somebody has recognized something about,

Aleyah: So often say that in your mind, I

Aleyah: Received that. It could be weird, but if you were just

Aleyah: Saying, if someone said, I like your shirt and he said, I received that. He would feel okay about that.

Jeffrey: Yeah, I might, I might do it out loud. Maybe not. I don't know up to you say it in your head, but the whole point is to say thank you. And to really mean it and except the, the compliments so often, you know, they say, oh, you look pretty like, oh no, no, no, no. You know, you, you poopoo it, you kinda pass over it. Or, you know, you feel awkward even at the subtle level, you feel awkward about that. And I think that is a huge, huge, huge, huge SIF shift, if you can just say, oh, well, thank you.

Aleyah: Thank you. I thank starts early. That's all it is daughters.

Aleyah: And it's like that star, that stuff starts early pushing away compliments, you know, feeling self-critical and that can definitely go into your business as well. So I think that is great just to learn how to say thank you. And then that's one of those times where, you know, it could be a clue to other work inner work that you need to do. So if you, you know, are feeling low self esteem or self worth, that's where it's great to dive in and get therapy and like read self-help books and connect with people who you feel great about being around, who lift you up, but rather than take your energy and bring you down, you know, there's a lot of cures for that, but I think that this, if you feel like you brush compliments away and it's really hard to receive them, that's usually a good indicator to go deeper and do that work because that's, what's going to help it. Not feel just like a spiritual bypassing where you just say the words, but you don't mean the words. You know what I mean?

Jeffrey: That kind of opens up the whole can of worms of like feeling deserving of the compliment, which bleeds over are you deserving of the success that you're looking for, right. Do you deserve the money that people will pay you for your services? Do you deserve the success that you're looking to build in your business? It's all kinds

Aleyah: Of, sometimes this stuff comes from, um, familial, just the past ancestral type stuff as well, because I know there's a lot of colloquialisms that I've heard throughout my lifetime, especially growing up in the south and you know, like people will say, how are you? And someone might answer better than I deserve, or they'll say you should be ashamed, you know, or, you know, all kinds of little things like that, that we grow up with that, um, you know, just kind of go into the subconscious or they can go into the subconscious and, and create a, um, a story around worth and, um, how that shows up in our lives. So I think just paying attention to how we talk about ourselves as pretty important, even if you think it's funny and cute, it may be, have a deeper tie to self-esteem stuff.

Jeffrey: Huge, huge. And that, and that's the part where it's like, it's, uh, seems like such a small benign thing, but it's that underlying root of that response that really can shift how you show up in your business, the ability for others to pay you money and for you to receive it. If you think about it, if somebody could pay you with the thank you, would you receive it? You know, that's the kind of question to grapple with. Thank you.

Aleyah: Would you receive, oh my mind, can't quite figure that out. Okay.

Jeffrey: Well, you know, you're you're as a coach course creator coach or whatever, you have a gift to give, and you're giving somebody that gift of knowledge, the gift of transformation, and they're going to say, thank you. How are they going to say, thank you. They're going to hand you money. And that's kind of the business side of receiving and giving, right? So you have a gift to give and somebody is going to receive.

Aleyah: And as a healer and, and, and working with a lot of other healers, I have to say that this is something definitely to work on and clear if you struggle with accepting money and accepting payment, because this is, that's a whole another podcast as well. But you know, a lot of people that I work with are just so dang sweet and wonderful, and they still have guilt or shame around accepting payment for their gifts. But this is the world we live in right now, right? It's like we have to money as what we pay our bills with and raise our families with and take care of ourselves with our mortgage, have our cars, all of that. You've got to have money. So that's part of taking care of yourself as learning how to receive payment for your gifts, whether they're spiritual in nature or not, you don't have to be using them for, for anything bad. It's okay to accept money.

Jeffrey: It is okay to accept money. Imagine how many schools you can build with money

Aleyah: Can do so much more money to have the more good, good. And that's just the

Aleyah: World that we live in today. We don't have a barter system. Yeah. But anyway, I'm veering off as usual.

Jeffrey: Okay. Number three, number three. What else can we do?

Aleyah: Unplug and connect with nature. That's one of the big ones for me. And I already kind of mentioned it earlier, but, um, to me, nature is the source of all the energy in if I feel unstuck or, um, I mean, if I stuck or unclear about something, um, getting out to nature is the number one way that I can move any kind of resistance is, and really just stop thinking about work for awhile. Right. But to me that, you know, nature already, if you just look around in nature, there's all kinds of systems of give and take and, um, cyclical, you know, systems. And we're part of that. And so I feel like connecting with that just puts you in the right mindset for, for, um, receiving, receiving beauty receiving the right now is springtime. It's like just receiving the smells, the visual beauty, that's everywhere. You know, getting yourself in that mode can shift so many things internally, right?

Jeffrey: Mm Hm. And part of this is moving your body and playing and being playful and, you know, you know, moving your body, preferably move your body out into nature. But if it means, if it means, you know, if that's hard and all you can do is get to the gym, that's, that's a pretty good step.

Aleyah: Yeah, I think so. Just anything that helps you energetically shift for sure. Just gets you out of your stuckness. Yeah. You know, cause a lot of times those rigid ways that we view ourselves or the world and those rigid filters we have of resistance are just old patterns. That's all they are. And we can, we can definitely, you know, break those down and shift them around. You know, they don't have to stay that way. So sometimes coming at it through the side door is the best way to, to shift that kind of energy. So

Jeffrey: This next one, number four, this is a little, this may seem a little weird, but changing your environment is, is a big way to kind of shift up your energy. And uh, this could be going and visiting new places. It could be changing your furniture around. It could be extreme. You could change your friends or, yeah,

Aleyah: That's a really big one. Actually, if your friends are really negative or draining in any way, you know, or doesn't feel reciprocal, that's a huge one. A lot of times we stay in relationships out of obligation that are no longer serving us. And you know, if you have friends that are supportive, who believe in you, who love what you're doing and they're not judging you or criticizing you, I mean, think of how much better that feels. Right.

Jeffrey: Yeah. And think about, uh, if, if you've got that friend, who's always there to complain to you who always wants you to help them out. And um, you know, they're, they, they're the ones who always want you to listen to them, then you're in giving Money. Right. So you're giving and you're giving and you're giving and receiving, but you really

Jeffrey: Have to be conscious about, okay, where in your life are you receiving? Who's listening to you, you know, where, where that's gotta be a give and take, it's gotta be a give and take. If that's imbalanced, then you can start. Yeah,

Aleyah: Absolutely. I think that's a huge thing. And I think that this, the changing your environment ties into the nature thing we were just talking about as well. It's just like shifting things around, moving around, getting a new perspective just to, you know, when you fill those walls of resistance, it really helps to, to come at this in an indirect way sometimes to get into receiving mode, you just feel better.

Jeffrey: Okay. Number five, this is my personal favorite. Minimize your intake of the news. And this is more related to just living your life in general, but I feel like the news can be such a draining experience and you know, it's all bad news. There's never any good news on mainstream media and all of those outlets TV.

Aleyah: It's been a long time since we had to.

Aleyah: Yeah. News can definitely put you in fear mode, which you know, can make receiving mode a little harder for sure. I personally, you know, I believe it's important to stay up to date with things. And you know, I think another way to be less stressed by news is to take action on change that you want to see. So, you know, I think men and minimizing your intake is great, but I also think, you know, if you do care about social issues, cause a lot of people I know say, well, I can't, I need to know what's happening to these people, you know, all over the world. Um, but if that makes you feel disempowered, then it's just going to drain you. If you're able to take action when you're donating, you know, money or time and to causes you care about, I feel like that really, you know, that is a giving mode, but you're helping and it's, he knows doing something right. Just news for news sake. Isn't really very helpful.

Jeffrey: Yeah. And that's why we say minimize it. I mean, don't avoid the news. Like you just put your head in the sand, but there's no need to tune into every, uh, broadcast and make it a main part of your media intake because just because it's so draining and it's always bad news and you know, like Lao was saying like just take action and be proactive about stuff, but you know, minimize your consumerism of news. Number six, you want to take this one? Oh

Aleyah: Yes. Speak about your blessings. And this one is, um, so important kind of ties into number seven too, which is celebrate your successes. But, and I think this relates to your gratitude practice, but being vocal about your blessings, not just to yourself, but to everyone around you as well. I make a conscious effort to do this about you actually. You know, I just, I like to talk about you in a positive way. And I know we tease each other of course, cause we're married, but I also just, you know, the more that you speak about the good things in your life and the good things that are coming to you and happening, it, it ties into your gratitude practice. It just creates more momentum for more of that stuff to come to you. And you just create this little magnetic force, right? Like if, if I were just to complain about you every day and focus on like little things that are annoying or something and vice versa, like I bet we would not be getting along very well, but we're both people that notice the good, the good things in each other. And we talk about those all the time and I hear this from other people that you work with, they'll say, oh my gosh, Jeffrey always speaks so highly of you. And he, I just can tell he loves you so much. And of course that makes me feel good. And then I just want to talk about you like that. And then it just amplifies our love right. For each other.

Jeffrey: And we are really sappy on this podcast

Jeffrey: To a whole new territory, but I have to say you're really easy to speak highly of

Aleyah: That's super, super nice. I received that

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Aleyah: But I think this can apply to your business. And this is something I am working on. Like I said, like really speaking of all the stuff going on in the business as well, like counting the blessings of our, you know, our old business, our new business and, and just realizing like the whole journey is, is part of it, right. Instead of feeling like, oh, I'm not here where I want to be yet. It's like focusing on what is here right now. And then every time you get a good open rate on that email, you just sent or, you know, somebody says, you really helped them in your business, you know, celebrate those wins high five, somebody about that, like share it with somebody and it amplifies that energy. And more of it comes to you when you do this,

Jeffrey: You know, I was with Naomi, we were shopping for beads just yesterday and yeah. Um, and we were at the bead store and Naomi looked up and pointed out a framed dollar bill on the, on the wall. And she mentioned something about it. Like I forget what she said, but she pointed out the dollar and why it was framed. And um, you know, the store owner said, yeah, that was one of the first dollars we ever made. And, and that's a way of celebrating that little success, right? The F you open a store, you make your first sale own it, celebrate it, you know, and it was just a dollar. It wasn't like she framed, you know, the whole bill, maybe it was $15, their first deal, right? No, it was a representation of like making the first sale, the earning the first dollar, like it's just a dollar, but it's worth celebrating. And I think that's kind of this, the, like you said, back to that gratitude practice, if you can celebrate, um, you know, uh, your first sale, your first lead, your first conversion, you know, and then maybe all of the conversions and all of the leads and all of this, say every little thing, like open rates and all of these little mini conversions and all of these little things that are going on in your business, celebrate them, make, make a little point to celebrate and just to sit and be grateful for it.

Aleyah: Amen. It really does help and bring, it brings more to you more of what you want to you.

Jeffrey: All right. Number eight, this is powerful. Hold onto your socks, everybody, because number eight is to reframe your present. I don't mean a gift. I mean, the present, not again, the, now this is all about, um, being in your power. And so I'm sure for our listener out there, you've heard this before. The only power you have is now the only moment you have is now, right. Eckhart totally made a whole book, a few books about the power of now, and, and many gurus have talked about this, but it is where your power lies, right?

Aleyah: Yeah. I mean, I think you said it really well, just reframing if your energy is going into what you don't have and the lack you're experiencing, then you're not in receiving mode most likely. Right. Then, you know, if you can be in the present moment, you know, for me, this is a little hard, I think that's why I have a meditation practice and that helps me bring it back to a present moment throughout the day. I think it's really hard to stay in the present all the time. Um, but I think if you can, the more that you do that in the more you have consistency in some kind of spiritual practice or meditation practice, gratitude practice, it helps you feel more in control of your present moment. Right? So that you're not just feeling like you're just getting tossed around on the waves all the time. Like a little boat in is in a stormy sea. This helps you stay grounded, focused, you know, aware of the gifts in your life. And even if you're in a situation it's like, you're more in tune with your intuition. If you're in like a dire situation. I mean, they, it helps you be more in tune in that present moment. I mean, that's a whole nother can of worms. Yeah.

Jeffrey: And I feel like we could have a whole podcast just on number eight.

Aleyah: We definitely,

Aleyah: Um, uh, number nine, listening to inspiring and motivating messaging. I feel like that kind of ties into that as well. You're, it's like filling up your mental space with things that feel healthy to you. Um, and you know, there's a lot out there about re getting into receiving mode, getting, shifting your, um, view around finances. There's a lot of podcasts helping you with your self worth. I mean, you can dive into all of this kind of stuff in books, podcasts. I feel like we live in this age of just exciting time of information, access to information. And so what you put into your mental space, you know, if you think of your mental space as, um, oh, I can't think of the word, but you know, like a precious, uh, a sacred space, you know, with what you're taking in and you only want to feed it like nutritious food, you know, maybe every now and then you have a cheat day or whatever, but, you know, if you want to stay in receiving mode or you're having trouble shifting into receiving mode, filling up that mental space with positivity and things that inspire you is going to help you so much more than listening to the news. Right.

Jeffrey: So Much more. In fact, um, I, you know, growing up as a kid, I watched horror movies and stuff like that. And the other day, Naomi was pointing out a horror movie trailer and, oh gosh, it just, it just gave me an icky feeling. And I don't even remember what it was, but I remembered, I mean, it was just last night thinking I do not want to watch that at all. I don't have any desire to watch that. And, you know, and Neha and I watch movies all the time when we love action movies and stuff like that. But that's just something I don't want to put into my, I, you know, what do we call that? Our sacred little mind bubble? Do we have a good name for that?

Aleyah: Here's your Real estate in your brain, your mind? Yeah. I know having teenagers, you see how appealing it is, like why you chose differently when you were younger. Right. Like to them, it just, doesn't, it's fun and entertaining and all their friends are doing it. And they're just kind of in that mode, that, that age right now, and it, and it does give you the contrast, you know, it shows you what you don't want and, and what you do want. So, I mean, I guess that's just part of the world that we live in that we have that contrast. But yeah, if you're trying to shift into receiving Mode, it's probably not the best thing to

Aleyah: Fill up your mental space with, unless you, I mean, I have friends though who love that kind of stuff. So not very many. I think I have two adult friends who still love horror movies and should them, it's relaxing and humorous and entertaining for me. It's anxiety provoking and like horrifying and would give me nightmares for like three more years. So yeah,

Jeffrey: I, you know, and it goes back to know thyself, if you're the kind of person, if you're kind of, if you're the kind of people that can do that more power to you, but if not know thyself, right. Fill it with goodness.

Aleyah: Yes. And then our last one clearing ancestral energy, we talked about earlier as well. If you know that you come from people who are, you know, salty and just are into, you know, survival the hard way, and like aren't into receiving and like pull yourself up by your bootstraps. And you've got to do everything the hard way and do it all yourself. You know, a lot of our ancestors had those views because they really had to do those things and they valued that type of work ethic and their gifts. There are gifts from coming from, from people like that. For sure. And there are also things that don't really are not, are no longer necessary in our modern day world. Right. And especially in the online entrepreneur space. So if you know that that's a possibility, um, that you still maybe have some of those ancestral connections that might keep you from fully experiencing the type of receiving mode and welcoming, you know, the type of change that you want in your life.

Aleyah: Now, it's a great idea to clear it, and you can do this with setting your intentions. You can clear it. That's a whole nother podcast set here, and we've been like veering off into many topics today. But, um, clearing, you know, that's something I help people with is clearing ancestral energy. You can, um, check your own body for ancestral chords that could still be draining you or not serving you in some way. And it is very clearable. It doesn't mean you don't love and appreciate your ancestors for all the, the interesting gifts that they've given you and connections that you have with them. You can love them so much and also not want to hold on to those stories. And that's okay. It doesn't mean it doesn't have to be negative to let go of that. You can keep the good stuff and let go of the stuff that doesn't serve you.

Jeffrey: Absolutely. Absolutely. All right. Just to recap and wind this up. So here are top 10 easy ways to shift into receiving mode. Number one is that gratitude practice, right? Two is accepting compliments and shifting, and really, really deeply shifting that energy to receiving the compliment, right? Three it's unplugging, moving into nature, moving your body and not powering through more work. Number four, change your environment, new places, new friends, new things, just shift it up, shift up that energy. Number five, minimize your intake of the news. We're not saying bury your head, but just bring it down, bring it down a few notches. Number six, speak about your blessings. Talk about them. This is different than bragging. And I think we kind of talked about this, but you know, just reaffirming and bringing them up to yourself and to your friends and just being grateful, repeatedly, vocally and grateful for it. Number seven, celebrate your little successes and the big ones, eight, reframe your present, living in the moment. Number nine, listening to inspiring and motivating messaging. Maybe not horror movies and number 10, clearing the ancestral energy. Aliyah. Is there anything you want to add to make this podcast episode complete?

Aleyah: Um, I think that's all great. I think that we all know if we do, if we throw up a wall of resistance and we have a no before we have a yes. When new things are coming into our space. So if you know, you're one of those people that's doing that, just work on, you know, set the intention to change it right now, you can shift this. It just it's like building a new habit, right? Where you say yes, instead of no to anything new that's coming into your space. So it can be done. I know because I have worked on this for decades and, and I'm so much better at it now.

Jeffrey: Awesome. So good. Thank you so much for joining us. If you enjoy this episode, please leave us a five star review and hit that subscribe button. You can check out the show notes at See you next time.

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